Sorry for my interruption
Words are some kind of Janus - the double-face god. People always sharpen their good edges and cover the blunt edges, and also the dark sides, to gain sympathy from the public or the most people. Especially in VN, where almost people are misguided or never being oriented. They don't have their own view, their own vision, and they prejudge based on others and the most. When they feel sinful , they make confess and filled with liars, or one-sided vision to satisfy themselves, to tell themselves a lie that their mistakes or sins not originated from their own 'manner' , they are good, but forced to be that by something, someone ... etc. The only thing to blame is the fate which never able to defense itself.
I hate betray and I hate betrayal too. What are the laws, the court and divorce for ? Of course, you made a wrong choice (as you explain, you were young at that time and never realized, and the impact of your broken love). Might be the one you chose was a neet (as you describe) with bad personalities: selfish, dictator, lazy, heartless ... and you are some kind of innocent and sensitive women, who never able to suffer depression. Have you ever WANT to heal that relationship ? Have you ever tried hard enough ? I notice that you consider him a replacement, and you never want to try hard from the deepest of your heart. In the worst situation, why not break yourself free first, and make another choice, a right person ? Everything is possible these days and women are not these of the 60s decade. Why always these betrayals ? Who will suffer ? Paybacks do exist, and sometime they fall onto your descendants, not yourselves. Wait and see.